Emotional Agility – by Susan David

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Title: “Emotional Agility: A Journey to Emotional Intelligence and Self-Discovery”

I listened to the audiobook about a year ago and revisited it recently. It serves as a valuable resource that helps identify situations where we might have negative emotional reactions and guides us in responding intelligently.

Although I consider myself a patient person, some examples in the audiobook revealed that I occasionally react unintelligently and without much thought in certain situations. In my opinion, this book is relevant to anyone looking to improve their emotional reactions and behaviors.

“Emotional Agility” emphasizes the importance of understanding and managing our emotions to lead a fulfilling life. Susan David provides practical advice and exercises to help readers develop emotional intelligence, foster self-awareness, and enhance personal growth.

I recommend reading or listening to this book. My favorite actionable takeaways are listed below as valuable reminders and recommendations:

  1. Envision Your Future Self: Write a letter to yourself describing where you see yourself in 10 years. This exercise promotes self-reflection and long-term goal setting.
  2. Daily Reflection: Each night, ask yourself what you found valuable in your day. This helps you identify and focus on activities that truly matter to you. In the mornings, consider how you would act if it were your last day on Earth. This thought experiment encourages mindfulness and gratitude.
  3. Identify Core Values: Reflect on questions related to your personal values, relationships, and emotional well-being. These inquiries help you recognize what is most important in your life and guide your decision-making.
  4. Small Steps Towards Big Goals: Break down larger goals into smaller, manageable tasks. This approach makes it easier to achieve your objectives and maintain motivation.
  5. Embrace a Growth Mindset: Shift from “have to” goals to “want to” goals. This change in perspective fosters intrinsic motivation and a growth mindset.
  6. Leverage Existing Habits: Piggyback on existing habits and use “if-then” logic to establish new goals and routines. This method helps create lasting, positive changes in your life.
  7. Find Balance in Competence and Comfort: Strive for equilibrium between competence and comfort. This balance enables personal growth while maintaining emotional stability.


“Emotional Agility” is a resource that can be revisited time and time again, offering valuable insights and guidance for personal growth and emotional intelligence. By applying the lessons from this book, readers can work towards achieving emotional stability and self-awareness, ultimately leading to a more meaningful and fulfilling life.

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