Don’t be upset, it’s not worth it.

It’s easy to be upset about anything. Whenever we browse social media or watch the news, or someone bothers us at work, we can get bitter or, worse, feel sad and anxious. It’s easy to do, to be mad or sad or feel rage. Why? Why are these feelings the default when something we perceive as unfavorable happens to us or when we learn about something we don’t like? In most cases, the emotions usually go away if you let some time and space in between these events.

For example, when writing code, I might expect something to work, but it doesn’t always happen. Sometimes I spend more time than expected to find a problem or come up with a solution. These coding problems usually upset me, or at the least, it bothers me. It makes me not like my work as much. Finally, after many years of trial and error, I think I can share something that often works for me.

When I run into a situation where I start feeling upset or uncomfortable, I try to put some space between me and that thing. I do this by walking away from my computer, turning off the TV, putting my phone away, etc. The idea is to put some space or time between you and the source of the negative feeling. I understand that this is only possible for some things, but it helps me with the things I can control, like my work or my time experience while watching the news or browsing social media.

Time and space cure it all. It sounds cliche, but it is true. How often have you felt upset about something or someone, and then after a while, that feeling goes away or diminishes with time? How often do you feel upset about something, and then hours or days later, you don’t even remember it? This feeling is more common than you might think.

Our feelings aren’t permanent nothing is. Once you understand this, you’d be able to balance your feelings better, be in control, and you might even find that since nothing is permanent, worrying or being upset about something is nonsense. Of course, this is easier said than done, but some degree of this is possible if you try.

I have also noticed that when I am upset, people around me behave differently, they don’t like it, and they might even become upset. It is like a virus, and it is contagious. The same can be said about a smile or someone who expresses contentment. If you are with someone who smiles, you’d probably smile too.

There you have it. I hope it works for you. The above is not scientific advice or anything like that. Just sharing my experiences and how I’ve been able to stay calm and relaxed even when people think I should be upset. It doesn’t always work. I am a work in progress and will always be. So I am OK with that.

I hope you have a great day!

Thankful

I was born in Mexico and migrated to the United States in 1996. Thanksgiving was not something we celebrated in my hometown. I wasn’t even aware of what it meant until much later. Eventually, I thought of it as the “turkey” holiday and a day when we had the opportunity to be thankful.

Thanksgiving is a national holiday celebrated on various dates in the United States, Canada, Grenada, Saint Lucia, and Liberia. I learned about this from a Wikipedia article. It began as a day of giving thanks for the harvest’s blessings and the preceding year.

It’s been twenty-six years since I immigrated to the United States, so I’ve celebrated Thanksgiving 26 times, and I can say that this holiday is truly extraordinary. I am very thankful for my life, my family, and our health and luck. Of course, not everything is perfect, but everything is far from horrible, and I am thankful for that.

Thanksgiving is now the perfect opportunity to take some time from our busy lives, pause for a moment, think of the things we can be grateful for, and enjoy a meal with family and friends – if possible.

I dearly hope you all have the same opportunity I have to celebrate this holiday, and please accept a virtual hug from me. I am also thankful for you and for your family. Finally, I am grateful that this world exists, the people, nature, and everything that makes it so special and unique.

Happy Thanksgiving, and cheers to you all!

Birds flying in Central Park - 2022

A strangely boring week

This is the title I wrote back on March 1, 2021. I remember opening my word editor and typing the title, a strangely boring week. Back then, we were still amid COVID-19 fears, regulations, etc. I remember thinking this has been a very boring week in the middle of the chaos.

A boring week meant to me, a good week, a very good one. Everyone around me was OK, with no stresses or fears about the things I could not change, and no pending projects I couldn’t finish. I had enough to be comfortable. I felt calm by blocking the outside noise.

One key element to my positive boredom was that I had picked up reading and writing (again), replacing the time I spent on social media sites and watching the news with reading books, writing, walking and watching my favorite movies. The activities above manifest the best version of myself, transforming my relationship with my family, myself, and everyone else around me.

I’ve had more boring weeks since then, and I can manifest them quite easily now. I understand that I have the privilege of not having to worry about basic needs such as food and shelter, and for that, I am grateful. But having the basic needs covered is often not enough for most people in the modern world. Many of us live with anxiety, spending many hours every day browsing social media, watching the news, and feeling like crap because of it. It’s like a drug, you know it will make you feel bad, but you can’t stop it. It’s stimulating, and it isn’t boring.

The younger version of myself was more like I am when I am bored. Growing up in Mexico, my worries were simple things for the most part. Of course, some things made me sad and worried, but at least these things were happening to me or around me, which meant that I could do something about it. The internet didn’t exists yet, at least not in the form that it does now, and I consider myself lucky for it. The internet is extraordinary and has helped me grow in my career and financially. But the reality is that it can potentially ruin lives, families, and even countries due to its reach and addictive attributes.

Boring is often seen as a negative thing. Constant stimulation is all around us. We can’t get enough of it. To break that habit of constantly looking at our phones, which is today the primary tool for the social media drug, you have to be aware and do what you can to avoid it. Finding a new habit that’s easy to do instead of looking at your phone is the best way to avoid social media. Having a book near me, or my journal and pen ready, makes this task much more manageable. Also, I do give myself time to use social media, but limit it to specific times of the day and only for a limited number of minutes.

Have you noticed what happens when you see someone yawn? Or when you yawn yourself? Well, the same mimicking behavior occurs when you see someone glancing at their phone, it makes you look at yours too. When people look at their mobile phones, around half the people nearby will start checking their phones within 30 seconds. This automatic response is due to people mimicking each other without realizing it – what scientists call the “chameleon effect.”

Boring is a good thing. Embrace boredom and don’t feel like you have to entertain yourself when you are feeling bored. My most focused reading and writing have been when I felt bored. Some of my best ideas have come from boredom. So seek boredom, embrace it, and allow it. When social media pulls you into the chaos of the “world,” remember that these mediums are programmed to incite fear, rage, fear of missing out (FoMO), and many other negative emotions.

It is normal to want to know what’s going on and to share a post with friends and the community. However, spending most of your time in a world beyond your reach is not OK. In social media, you absorb the negative stuff, and you rarely get to absorb the good. Boring is something that social media, the news, and the internet actively avoid. It’s not good for engagement, it doesn’t capture attention to sell their ads, so many resource to sensationalistic headlines, even when the facts aren’t all that sensational.

Stay away from social media as much as you can, seek news and articles that inform you if you have to. But make it a priority to read books and do other things that doesn’t require you to participate in social media and its continuous push to engage your emotions.

I hope you have a boring week. Cheers.

A photo of a pig statue with wings located at Pike Place market in Seattle

Hunting for old film cameras in antique shops

About two weeks ago, my wife and I went to Snohomish, a town about 30 miles north of Seattle, where you can find many antique stores on their main street. Snohomish is also listed on the National Register of Historic Places. We found out about this town a few years back after going to pick up cherries at a nearby farm.

Recently, I have taken an interest in old film cameras. Since I like photography, I knew it was just a matter of time before this would happen. Before our trip to Europe this past summer, I bought a Nikon FE2 at a camera shop in Kenton, WA. I wanted to take some film photos during our trip, and after some research, I bought this camera because it is easy to use and also inexpensive. It’s a bit bulky and heavy as it is an SLR camera, but I didn’t have enough time to look for a rangefinder then.

I took my newly acquired Nikon FE2, made around 1984, and a roll of Kodak Gold film, the only color film available at this camera shop that day, to our European trip.

I first used this camera in Porto, Portugal, our first location in Europe. I posted about Porto about a month ago and shared a few photos I took with this camera. Overall, I am pleased with its quality and functionality.

Back to Snohomish, Washington. If you live in the Seattle area and haven’t gone, visit this town, they have so many interesting stores. If you don’t live in the Seattle area, I recommend planning a visit to Snohomish the next time you are in the area, it’s just 30 miles away from downtown Seattle, and if you like antique shopping, you’re up for a treat.

After visiting 2 or 3 stores, I hadn’t found anything yet. My goal was to find an old film camera, preferably a rangefinder. We were at one of the largest antique shops in Snohomish, browsing through the endless hallways on the second floor when my wife pointed at a glass display case with many items. They had a few cameras, among many things, such as binoculars, antique toys, and some decorations. I asked one of the employees to open the display case for us to take a closer look at the cameras. I opened a few cases and camera bags, but most weren’t what I was looking for until I found two very interesting cameras.

Inside a black pouch was a small, light, and beautiful Ricoh Auto Start rangefinder camera. Then, in a hard brown case, I found another beautiful camera. It was a Braun Paxette with a 50mm lens. Both cameras were in great shape, and after quickly looking at their value on eBay, I offered a slightly lower price for both items and got them.


Ricoh Auto Shot

The Ricoh Auto Shot is a viewfinder camera for 35mm film made in Japan by Ricoh in 1964. It has a selenium meter around the lens and film advance mechanism with a spring motor – this is why it has Auto Shot in the name, it’s pretty cool. Its viewfinder front element is placed within the meter ring.

Below are some photos I’ve taken with it in the past month.


Braun Paxette

Paxette was a line of 35mm film viewfinder and rangefinder cameras made by the Braun company in Nuremberg, Germany, in the middle of the 20th century. These cameras were of high quality, with excellent optics. This camera is beautiful, and as seen in the photos above, it is in perfect condition. I haven’t finished the film I put in the camera yet (Portra 400), but as soon as I shoot all exposures, I’ll have it developed and post some example images from that camera. I’m very excited to see them.

These two cameras will be used from time to time, but I like looking at them more than anything. The engineer in me feels very happy to know that all of these cameras can be used without a battery. They are entirely mechanical, and there’s something beautiful about that.

I am an avid user of technology, but the reality is that all the new technology is limited to a power source. Thus we end up carrying batteries and chargers and spend a lot of time just charging these modern devices. I understand it is a necessary trade-off to get better quality and more functionality. Still, like I said, there is something impressive and beautiful about having a camera work without any batteries or cables.

Have a wonderful weekend!

The internet is not what it promised.

Imagine seeing something wrong. It’s clear to you, and it’s there. It’s obvious. Yet, we can’t do anything about it due to all the noise and the magnetic attraction that people have towards public figures, even when some public figures are increasing the noise for even more attention and personal gain.

The internet didn’t democratize communication as it promised. It didn’t give everyone a voice. Instead, it gave a few selected people a direct way to communicate to their large number of fans or followers to help them continue growing their brands and influence. Ev Williams, one of Twitter’s founders said that everyone should have a voice on the Internet, but the problem today is that while most people have a voice, all the attention is given to those with a megaphone.

Most people are still on the sidelines, scraping for attention via comments, replies, and, if you are lucky, the random viral post. We are still on the bench, just watching the game and not playing. You can try playing, not one stops you, but most popular online sites and communities will make it very hard for your message to be visible. Unfortunately, the internet, or at least the modern internet, is designed to do just that.

There are indeed people who created a brand and accumulated a large number of followers on the internet, and that is great. But it is a challenging thing to do. Platforms prioritize the message and visibility of famous people, and their message is less important than their fame and the number of followers. But do they have the best content or the best message to share? Maybe, but not always, not by far. There are many people out there who are incredibly talented and don’t get any attention due to how these platforms are designed.

I understand that giving everyone attention is not possible. Still, it would be ideal if the internet helped relevant and good content to surface and be more visible to all, regardless of who’s sharing it or creating it.

Many public figures complain about a small percentage of humans having a ridiculous amount of wealth but fail to look at themselves in the mirror and realize that it is also just a tiny percentage of humans like them, having a ridiculous amount of attention and influence.

The first version of the internet was a good idea, but the current social media platforms are not. They are similar to a TV show. We are here watching, pretending that we have a voice or any meaningful participation in it, while we are being told by a tiny percentage of humans what’s good and bad, how we should feel, and increasingly causing just madness and conflict among all of us.